Joseph’s review on the YouTube video of lawyer Rebecca Zung – Court Sanctions For The Narcissist
“I love how openly and unapologetically Rebecca talks about and how to deal with narcissists (narc). Her clear definition of narcissists and appropriately navigating their chaotic energy is worth its weight in gold. If you are a narcissist or you’re dealing with a narcissist, hopefully this bright and shinny soul, Rebecca, helps you come to Jesus and STOP being a NARCISSIST — or — help you get justice against a narcissist.” Joseph Ray Powers
PUNISH THAT NARCISSIST!
If you give a little bit to a narcissist, they think they’re winning and they’re going to get away with it.
How to recoup attorney’s fees or do something when that narcissist does something bad in court?
How do you get that narcissist to do what they’re suppose to do in a court setting and actually hold their feet to the fire?
- Narcissists will do whatever they can to try to get away with whatever they feel they can get away with.
- Narcissists get their supply by making your life miserable.
- When dealing with narcissists, you’re either for them or against them.
- If you’re not for them, then in their mind, you have become the enemy.
You can’t let the narcissist get away with anything.
What is a sanction?
A sanction is a way to punish that narcissist for NOT doing what you’re suppose to do.
Sanctions can be:
- Striking their requests or pleadings
- Fees
- Fines
- Jail time
- Garnish wages
- Revoke drivers licenses
- Flag passport to stop international travel
- Interest on fines and fees
It’s basically, the court gets MAD and punishes you by making you do things.
If the judge doesn’t like your attitude or what you did, then they can impose sanctions.
The only reason why you’ll eventually comply with a court order is because there’s a person with a gun and handcuffs that will make you do what you’re told.
The judge is the only person with power over anyone else.
Lawyers only have so much perceived power.
“Narcissists and their lawyers are like owners with their dogs. They usually find one that kinda looks like them or is willing to toe the line and say what they want them to say.” Rebecca Zung
How to get sanctions against the narcissist?
What sequence of motions to file to get sanctions on the narcissist?
In Dr. Graves law course How To Win In Court Without A Lawyer, he gives you the direct procedure to impose sanctions on the disobedient party.
Motions to file in sequential order are.
- Motion to compel
- Motion to show cause
- Motion for contempt
The short weekend law course quickly shows you the standard procedures for every common court situation.
It’s easier than law school and teaches you what you need to know quickly to get up to speed with how lawyers operate and think.
What type of people are usual victims to narcissistic abuse?
Types of people susceptible to narc abuse include.
- Empathic people
- Compassionate people
- Vulnerable people in vulnerable moments
- kind people
- Good people
- Generous people
- Openhearted people
- People pleasers
- People with Low Self-Esteem
- Codependent Personality
- Individuals with a History of Abuse
- Those Seeking Validation
It’s not natural or comfortable goin on the offensive and and being as aggressive as you an possibly be in the court system.
Because, that’s what you have to do when it comes to dealing with a narcissist.
It’s important to note that anyone can become a victim of narcissistic abuse, regardless of their personality, background, or circumstances.
The responsibility for the abuse lies with the abuser, not the victim.
Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse can be crucial in recognizing it and seeking help. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals like therapists can be critical in healing and recovering from such an experience.
Victims of narcissistic abuse can come from all walks of life
There’s no specific type of person who is predisposed to becoming a victim.
However, certain characteristics or circumstances may make some individuals more vulnerable to this kind of abuse:
- Empathetic and Compassionate Individuals: People who are naturally empathetic and compassionate may be more susceptible to narcissistic abuse. Their desire to help or heal others can make them targets for narcissists, who often exploit these traits for their own benefit.
- Low Self-Esteem or Vulnerability: Individuals with low self-esteem or those going through a vulnerable phase in their lives (such as after a breakup or during a stressful period) may be more susceptible. Narcissists often prey on these vulnerabilities, using them to manipulate and control their victims.
- People Pleasers: Those who have a strong desire to please others and avoid conflict may find themselves in relationships with narcissists. Their tendency to put others’ needs above their own can be exploited by a narcissist’s manipulative behavior.
- Individuals with a History of Abuse: People who have experienced abuse in the past, especially in childhood, may be more likely to enter into relationships with narcissists. This can be due to a lack of healthy relationship models or an unconscious attraction to familiar dynamics.
- Codependent Personality: Individuals who exhibit codependent traits may be more likely to become victims of narcissistic abuse. Codependency involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others, which aligns with the narcissist’s desire to be the center of attention and control.
- Those Seeking Validation: People who seek external validation and approval might be more susceptible to narcissistic abuse, as narcissists often initially provide excessive admiration and validation to lure victims into a relationship.
It’s important to note that anyone can become a victim of narcissistic abuse, regardless of their personality, background, or circumstances. The responsibility for the abuse lies with the abuser, not the victim.
Understanding the dynamics of narcissistic abuse can be crucial in recognizing it and seeking help. Seeking support from friends, family, or professionals like therapists can be critical in healing and recovering from such an experience.
What is a ‘real’ narcissist?
The term “real narcissist” typically refers to someone who exhibits traits consistent with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), a mental health condition characterized by a long-standing pattern of grandiosity (either in fantasy or actual behavior), an overwhelming need for admiration, and usually a complete lack of empathy towards others. It’s important to note, however, that only a qualified mental health professional can diagnose NPD. Here are some key characteristics often associated with NPD:
- Grandiose Sense of Self-Importance: Individuals with NPD often overestimate their abilities and inflate their accomplishments, often appearing boastful or pretentious.
- Preoccupation with Fantasies of Unlimited Success, Power, Brilliance, Beauty, or Ideal Love: They may spend a lot of time daydreaming about achieving power or success, or about being more attractive or loveable than others.
- Belief of Being “Special” and Unique: People with NPD may believe that they can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
- Need for Excessive Admiration: They often require constant admiration and validation from others.
- Sense of Entitlement: This might manifest as unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with their expectations.
- Interpersonally Exploitative Behavior: They may take advantage of others to achieve their own ends.
- Lack of Empathy: Individuals with NPD often have difficulty recognizing or empathizing with the feelings and needs of others.
- Envy of Others or Belief that Others Are Envious of Them: They may be resentful of others’ success or happiness or believe others are jealous of them.
- Arrogant, Haughty Behaviors or Attitudes: This can include snobbery or a patronizing manner.
It’s important to distinguish between NPD and traits of narcissism that many people might exhibit from time to time.
Narcissism is a spectrum, and while many individuals can show narcissistic traits, it doesn’t necessarily mean they have NPD.
The disorder itself is complex and can only be diagnosed by a trained professional, typically through a detailed psychological evaluation.
Additionally, NPD, like many personality disorders, can be challenging to treat, often requiring long-term therapy.
Do narcissist say things like, we’re either good or not good, there’s no in-between?
Statements like “we’re either good or not good, there’s no in-between” can sometimes be associated with the black-and-white thinking often observed in individuals with narcissistic traits or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
This kind of polarized thinking, also known as “splitting,” involves viewing things in extremes—something or someone is either completely perfect or entirely flawed, with no middle ground.
In the context of narcissism, this may manifest in several ways:
- Idealization and Devaluation: Narcissists may rapidly shift their opinions about people or situations from very positive (idealization) to very negative (devaluation), based on whether their needs or expectations are being met.
- Rigid Viewpoints: They may hold onto their opinions very strongly and may be unwilling or unable to see the nuances in different situations or viewpoints.
- Control and Manipulation: This type of all-or-nothing statement can be a method of control or manipulation, framing situations in such a way that it forces the other person into agreeing with them or complying with their demands.
- Defensive Mechanism: Such statements might also be a defensive mechanism to protect their fragile self-esteem. By simplifying complex situations into good/bad dichotomies, they avoid dealing with the deeper issues or insecurities they may have.
- Relationship Challenges: In relationships, this kind of thinking can create significant challenges and instability, as the narcissistic individual may quickly swing from idealizing their partner to devaluing them.
It’s important to note that while such statements can be indicative of narcissistic traits, they are not exclusively linked to narcissism.
Many people might occasionally engage in black-and-white thinking, especially under stress or in emotionally charged situations.
However, if this pattern is persistent and impacts various aspects of one’s life and relationships, it could be a sign of an underlying personality issue such as NPD.
As always, a mental health professional is best equipped to make such determinations.
How do you get that narcissist to do what they’re suppose to do in a court setting and actually hold their feet to the fire?
Dealing with a narcissist in a court setting can be challenging.
Here are some strategies that might help:
- Documentation and Evidence: Keep meticulous records of all interactions, agreements, and relevant incidents. Narcissists often rely on charm and manipulation, so having concrete evidence can counteract their narrative.
- Legal Representation: Work with an attorney who has experience dealing with high-conflict personalities. They can offer strategies specific to your case and ensure that you’re legally protected.
- Clear Communication: Use straightforward and unambiguous language in all communications. This minimizes the opportunity for the narcissist to twist your words or create confusion.
- Setting Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries and stick to them. This includes not engaging in unnecessary communication and not responding to provocations.
- Court Orders and Enforcement: Ensure that any agreements or rulings are formalized through court orders. If the narcissist fails to comply, you can seek enforcement through the legal system.
- Professional Support: Consider consulting a therapist or counselor. They can provide emotional support and coping strategies, which are crucial in high-stress situations like court proceedings.
- Stay Focused on the Goal: Keep your focus on the legal outcome rather than getting drawn into personal conflicts. Narcissists often try to derail the process by creating drama.
- Avoid Direct Confrontation: Direct confrontation can escalate the situation. Communicate through legal counsel when possible and avoid personal engagement.
- Understanding Narcissistic Behavior: Educate yourself about narcissism. Understanding their behavior can help you anticipate challenges and not take their actions personally.
- Support System: Lean on friends, family, or support groups. They can provide emotional support and practical advice.
Remember, each situation is unique, and what works in one case might not be effective in another. It’s important to tailor these strategies to your specific circumstances and always seek legal advice from a qualified professional.
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